FORGIVING 101

Where do we get the idea that if WE don't forgive people, THEY suffer?  Its nuts!

Let's say: a) Your boss fires you.  B) Your girl friend runs off with your best friend.
So You say, "I'll NEVER forgive them!"  Who suffers?

Not your boss, your girl friend, or your best friend, but YOU!   You get the knot in your stomach.  You lose the sleep.   They are probably out partying!

While you resent them, you SUFFER! Meanwhile you tell yourself, "I'm right!"  But being "RIGHT" doesn't make you happy, it makes you miserable.
 
Here's the point.  To forgive someone, you don't have to AGREE with what they did.  You just have to want your life to work.

You don't forgive people for THEIR benefit.  You do it for YOUR benefit. 
 
So this is your mission for the next 24 hours:  Think of someone that has hurt you.  Just for today, practice letting go of all resentment toward them. 
 
Gather all your ANGRY thoughts, those "I am right and they are wrong" thoughts, and put all that resentment into an imaginary balloon, and let it float away. 
 
Throughout the day, repeat the process.  You will feel better.  Repeat the process as many days as needed to make forgiveness complete.  You will then feel happy and free. 

Forgiving people is tough, but it is possible.  You forgive people for YOUR benefit.  It makes YOU happier.